Friday, November 21, 2014

You Are Not the Woman I Imagined

My heart goes out to the unidentified newlywed Saudi woman whose husband rejected her after seeing her for the first time. Neither saw each other before their ceremony. Feeling no obligation to her or their marriage, the man divorced her on the spot. I can't  imagine the pain and humiliation she suffered at the hands of this no good jerk. According to news reports, when he saw her face he leapt to his feet and proclaimed "You are not the one I imagined. I'm sorry but I divorce you."  To ensure that he gets the woman he imagined, I recommend not dating women you have never seen before. Can't see her in person, get a picture. That can save a lot of time and trouble.

Only in Saudi Arabia could something like this happen. Women don't even have the right to drive let alone leave the house without a male relative. Courtships like this are quite typical and the marriages go on without incident. Most men have a sense of honor that was lacking in this situation. Marriage is arranged and women marry whoever they are told to marry. There isn't too much picking and choosing going on. Had the wife been repulsed by her husband's appearance, she has no recourse. She's stuck with him for life or until he decides to divorce her. I hold out hope that one day Saudi women will be able to leave the house alone, drive around the streets of Riyadh and chose their own husband

Just about everyday a woman pops up accusing Bill Cosby of drugging and raping her. With the number of women reaching fifteen or so, I find it very hard to believe that these women are making these accusations up. The stories are all the same and these events are decades old. Rape is rape, no matter when it happens. Cosby has been accused of this behavior before and even reached a settlement with one woman over the same charges. If someone accused me of something I didn't do, I wouldn't be paying anyone off. This further tarnishes Cosby's image in my book (His vitriolic diatribes against poor inner city blacks made me think less of him but that's a post for another day).

Drugging and raping, seriously? You are a rich celebrity, there are plenty of women and men willing to sleep with you just because you are famous, no drugs necessary. There's something psychotic about drugging someone and then raping them. This is not a good look no matter how wholesome or family-oriented your image may be. When rape is involved, blaming the victim is the "go-to" strategy for the accused and often law enforcement. Just because a woman does not report rape when it happens doesn't mean it didn't happen. There are all kinds of reasons not to report rape. Fear, shame and embarrassment come to mind. Accusing a powerful man of rape doesn't always go well, you can find the tables turned on you and have your sex life scrutinized. That's how women are treated in our society.

Now Cosby wants us to believe that he's been unfairly targeted and all those women are lying and making up stories about  him. I don't feel an ounce of sympathy for him nor do I believe him. Abusing women is never okay.

Friday, November 07, 2014

A Little Somethin' Somethin'

ISIL (Islamic State of Iraq and the Levant) jihadists training in Syria

After more than a year away, I decided to start blogging again. There have been so many things that have caught my attention over the past year but I really didn't have a chance to blog about it. I'm still passionate about social justice, politics and get indignant over injustice.

I'm not surprised when there's news about George Zimmerman pulling a gun on someone. I'm not surprised when some shit goes down at Wal-Mart. And definitely not surprised by the rise by the super extreme Islamists parading across Syria and Iran murdering and beheading people. It's shocking at best then you think, are these people really serious? Yeah, they are and the idiot women escaping to Syria to become jihadi brides aren't much better but then women like bad boys even when they murder and behead. This is not about Islam but about power.

I can't leave out Boko Haram, another bunch of crazy Islamists operating in northern Nigeria. Snatching young school girls and making them brides? Desparate much. It's a sorry state when you can't find your own women but have to kidnap young girls so they can become sex slaves and bear your children. Pathetic but not quite as pathetic as the Nigerian government who has done nothing to rescue these girls. Another inept, self-serving African government.

Not all of Africa is bereft with inept leadership. I give props to the people of Burkina Faso who took to the streets to oust aspiring President for Life Blaise Campaore. Twenty-seven years of looting and stealing from his people wasn't enough for President Campaore but it was enough for his people. As Africa's poorest country, the Burkinese people only need check Campaore's foreign bank accounts to find out where their future went. Let's hope the military leadership cedes power in elections that are supposed to take place in a few months.

I still get amused by made up names but that doesn't make me a self-hating black person. I'm just old school. I like names I can pronounce and spell. Some are quite ridiculous, apostrophes and accent marks that don't really belong and the ones that annoy me the most are the ones that defy all rules of grammar. Names make a person and none of these names are of African origin. In West Africa, children are always named after someone, they never just name a child without giving it some thought.This usually means they are named after a famous person (remember Idi Amin?), a friend or someone they respect. Their names have meaning and they are spelled correctly. So there. I get just as annoyed with first names that are last names too. Nothing self-hating about that either.

At a time when the Dow Jones has soared above 17,000, unemployment is below 6% and job growth has increased steadily, it's amazing the Republicans gained power. In all honesty, President Obama didn't do a good job of selling his accomplishments. With the Republicans controlling both the House and the Senate we're doomed. People always amaze me when they vote against their own personal interests and support a party that only cares about corporations, the one percent and in denial about science. As a woman I am not amused. It just means more attacks on my reproductive rights and the likelihood that I will never get the same pay as a man for the same work. We're definitely not going forward. I'm going to enjoy my Obamacare while I still have it.

To be continued...

Monday, July 15, 2013

Dear George

Trayvon Martin
"These fucking punks always get away."  --George Zimmerman
Dear George (I hope its okay if I skip the formalities and call you George. Seems like we've know each other for years even though its only been a few short months. Mr. Zimmerman sounds soooooo formal.), I believe you are right especially after being acquitted for murdering 17 year old Trayvon Martin.

To avoid doing a rehash of the story we've already heard, Martin was walking through your neighborhood with a bottle of iced tea and a bag of Skittles but the most important thing was he was a black man wearing a  hoodie. In your small mind, any young black man sporting a hoodie must be a hoodlum, thug, criminal or some kind of predator. Evidently the jury of mostly white women thought the same thing too. They bought your story, line by line.

In your world, young black men are suspicious no matter what. None of us will ever know what really went on between you and Trayvon Martin because you were the only one left standing and the story is yours to tell. It's amazing how an unarmed kid can be murdered for no good reason but it really must have been easy for you. In your mind, Trayvon Martin could not have been just a young black man on his way back from the store with a drink and some candy, he had to be one of the "fucking punks" that always get away. You made sure that didn't happen again, didn't you?

Your acquittal means that it's open season on young black men; deemed criminals and suspects on sight. They can be shot and the perpetrator, like you, can claim self defense and escape justice.That's a damn shame. Trayvon Martin wasn't just a young black man in a hoodie, he was someone's son who never made it home that fateful day. He was a brother, a cousin and a friend. He was a man.

For now, you have gotten away with murder but I'm pretty certain your life won't be getting any easier. I heard you have aspirations of becoming a lawyer. (Watch out there, you'd better finish up community college first.) You have no reason to celebrate, this is not a victory, it is travesty.

Now that you've proved you can murder a black man and get away with it. I am convinced that this post racial society they claim we live in does not exist. If the tables had been turned and you had been murdered, I am 100% certain that Trayvon Martin would be sitting on Florida's death row if there is one or serving a life sentence. Nothing post racial about a society that values a person based on their skin color and played out stereotypes.

We have a long way to go in dealing with our racist legacy. American has always had a problem with race and your acquittal last week certainly proves that. Not sure if any of those jurors or you for that matter, tried to put yourself in Trayvon Martin's place. Growing up a black man in America isn't easy.

For now, I surely hope you will go back to living your life quietly and out of the spotlight but I don't think that's happening. Personally I don't want to see you, your attorney or your intellectually challenged brother making the talk show circuit talking about how justice has been served. We both know that's a damned lie. You are a murderer, nothing more, nothing less. You cannot profit from someone else's misery.

In the meantime, my thoughts and prayers will be for Trayvon Martin's family and for their terrible loss.
(I'm just as angry as those folks protesting in Los Angeles, New York and Oakland. If you noticed, it isn't just a bunch of angry black folks, the crowds I have seen have been very diverse. Your head is probably exploding at the prospect that other people would be just as outraged by the verdict. The world is a changing. You don't have to be black to see that your acquittal was a miscarriage of justice.)

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Do I Look Suspicious?

It has been a year since 17 year old Trayvon Martin was shot and killed by neighborhood vigilante George Zimmerman. Martin, who was unarmed, was walking home from a deli with a soft drink and a bag of Skittles  when he was spotted by Zimmerman and reported to the police as being suspicious before being shot. Was it the hoodie Martin was wearing or was it the soft drink and bag of Skittles that aroused Zimmerman's suspicion?

Black men wearing hoodies, beware lest you become a victim as well. Racial profiling in this country is alive and well. Black men anywhere can easily become victims by just being black looking 'suspicious' which usually means being somewhere a white person thinks you shouldn't be. A department store, an upscale neighborhood and even a deli. Yes, the world is very small and in spite of having a black President, we have not gotten beyond racial stereotypes and prejudices. This is not post-racial America.

My prayers go out to Trayvon Martin's family, I can't even begin to know what it is like to lose a child under such tragic circumstances.

Monday, December 31, 2012

Have a happy, healthy prosperous 2013!

Here's one of my favorite Buddhist quotes that I'd like to share with everyone. One of my biggest faults is holding on to a grudge like nobody's business. I'm going to do better with that this year. I'm a work in progress but while I work on my anger issues, I try to remind myself of this:

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

Be happy, be healthy and be prosperous. Peace and Love.  K.

Friday, October 05, 2012

Of Lies and Pundits

No more photos Mitt Romney on this blog. This time it's the Jain Temple in Ranakpur, India with carvings of the Kama Sutra
I taped Tuesday night's debate hoping to catch it later but from the bits and pieces I saw, I'd rather not.  It seemed obvious President Obama wanted to be somewhere else like celebrating his wedding anniversary with his wife Michelle.  Republican candidate Mitt Romney had to put on the performance of his life to stay in the race and he did.

Although the mainstream media (aka the liberal media) declared Romney the winner, I think this declaration deserves more scrutiny.  President Obama was clearly off his game but the lies and fabrications Romney was spouting were absolutely deplorable.  The problem with Romney is you never know which one of his multiple personalities will show up. The man has more positions than the kama sutra.

The Mitt Romney at Tuesday night's debate contradicted himself, lied about his policies and browbeat the 'moderator' Jim Lehrer. Sadly, Obama did not challenge any of Romney's ridiculous assertions.  How can you promise to repeal Obamacare the first day you are in office and then say you are going to keep key pieces of the legislation in place? How's that? How can you claim that your tax cuts will not add to the federal deficit? Claiming to do the impossible while looking and acting presidential does not make it true or win debates in my book. For other lies Mitt told, check here.

Conservative pundits and critics are now embracing the polls that show a surge in Romney's numbers even though they disavowed the same polls that showed him trailing Obama last week.  According to this bunch, those polls were a fabrication of the liberal media but now that things are going their way, they are embracing the same poll numbers. No surprise here, polls are only convenient to Republicans when it shows the numbers they like.  Just like the nation's unemployment numbers dropped below 8% last month for the first time in three years and already there is a cacophony of Republicans claiming that the numbers are fixed. Of course President Obama cooked the books to improve his chances of reelection. He had to have had that up his sleeve since he didn't win the debates, blah, blah, blah. I'm gonna need an original copy of that birth certificate....

And today after doubling down and tripling down on those comments about 47% of Americans being  dependent on government, Mitt Romney now says he was wrong. This man obviously thinks people are stupid and have very short memories. Not surprised that he will say anything and do anything he can to win. He will take the most politically expedient opinion he can in order to get votes. In front of the silver spoon and country club set he expresses disdain for 47% of us who don't pay taxes. In front of working people in the swing state of Virginia, he says his 47% comments were wrong. I'm not looking for the real Mitt Romney to stand up, I just want his ass to go away.

Thursday, October 04, 2012

KitchenAid Weighs In

This tweet was spotted on KitchenAid's twitter account yesterday. Not content to sell $300 mixers, they are now jumping into politics with this foolishness. They have jumped on the 'I don't have to respect the President because he is black' bandwagon. You can best believe I won't be buying anything by Whirlpool or KitchenAid.  Politics don't belong in the kitchen. (Hat tip: Hollywood Street King.)

Yesterday's tweet from the official KitchenAid twitter account

Tax Bracket

From one of my favorite progressive blogs, Jobsanger:

Political cartoon by Nick Anderson from the Houston Chronicle

Wednesday, October 03, 2012

Lies and Zingers

President Barack Obama and his Republican challenger Mitt Romney
I am not a fan of Mitt Romney. He is the closest thing to a soulless empty suit that I have ever seen and ranks as one of the worst candidates running for president ever. When I heard that he has been practicing zingers since August in preparation for his debate with President Obama, I just rolled my eyes and sucked my teeth. He simply does not get it.  Debates are not about zingers and one-liners, debates are supposed to be about important issues like foreign policy, the economy and jobs but it would make since that Romney wouldn't want to talk about any of these issues because he doesn't have a plan for important issuing facing the 47% of Americans he doesn't care about. If he did have an opinion about something like abortion, affordable healthcare or immigration, he has changed his mind so many times that you don't know what to believe.

It's amazing that there are still die hard Republicans who are going to vote for him. He's not likable  there's something about him that is arrogant, duplicitous and underhanded that's why I believed his comments about 47% of Americans. He said it, meant it and even doubled down on it. What else is there to say? Regardless, some people are still going to vote for him because he's their guy. The stench of desperation has been hovering over his campaign for quite awhile. It's pathetic and sorry. How are you going to have a budget plan yet not discuss numbers? How are you going to call yourself the grandfather of Obamacare and threaten to repeal it the first day you are in office? How can you lie to the middle class about lowering their taxes when you plan to lower the tax rates for the wealthy? Do you even know basic math? I won't even touch the race-baiting nonsense. All of this is easy for Mitt Romney because he stands for everything and nothing at the same time. These are clearly characteristics that make him unfit to be president.

Tonight's presidential debate is supposed to be a game changer for him, he needs it but he doesn't strike me as person who can rise to the challenge. I don't think he's going to change anyone's mind because most people have made up their minds already. Those few independent voters who claim to be undecided won't be swayed by any of Romney's zingers.  The man just doesn't get it.